how-to project by Barbara was originally published in shorter
form in her "Making
Memories" column which ran in Crafts 'n Things magazine
Make a Unique Memory Box of (or for) Your Father
wish my dad could have seen this box, for he would have been proud
of me for practicing what he always preached; namely that
everything has value, even something that looks like junk. To
others who searched through daddy's garage
after his death for
tools they wanted to keep, the stack of grease-covered tractor
gaskets back in the corner was just filthy junk. But I saw
artistry in the shape of those gaskets, and when I scratched the
surface of one and found it to be copper, I could almost hear
daddy saying, "See that copper? It has value. Save it."
It took me a week to clean the grime from the gasket and restore
its copper tones, and I think even daddy would have been surprised
to see how beautiful it turned out to be. Like him, in fact. On
the surface, daddy looked scruffy, but when you scratched a bit,
you found a beautiful person with a heart as big as the world.
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Here are some tips on how to make a unique memory box of, or for,
your father. Begin with a glass-covered shadow box (available in craft
stores) to desired size and
1. Inner Frame.
You're not likely to find an old tractor gasket lying around, so finding
a unique frame for your collection of photos will take some creativity
on your part. If you do find something metallic and shiny, be sure to
give it a protective spray coating so it won't tarnish later. In
designing your own frame, think of something that has an interesting shape with
holes in it that might serve as individual picture frames, or make your
own frame. Let your father's occupation or hobby inspire a shape you can
cut from matboard, poster board or other material. For a fisherman,
perhaps a fish-shaped frame; for a writer or book lover, the shape of an
open book; for a computer technician, a computer monitor screen, and so
on. Add handpainted details as desired.
2. Background Material.
Mount your frame against a background fabric or textured material that
speaks of your father's work or nature. My dad practically lived in
overalls, so I lined the back and sides of his box with fabric cut from
one of his old blue work shirts. If
your father happens to be a businessman, consider old ties; a fisherman,
fishing net; a farmer, a straw mat, and so on.
3. Photo Selection.
Show your father at different ages and in different activities with
family, friends, and pets dear to his heart. Bring your creativity into play as you plan
how to enlarge, crop and enhance the color on your photographs and
experiment with your arrangement until you like the final result. (Tip:
Don't cut up your original photos -- work only with copies you've
scanned or had reproduced at a copy center.)
The experience of going through the family photo
albums can be quite nostalgic and bring back memories you thought were
long forgotten. For example, in one picture of my dad, I find myself next
to him -- on a cow mother told me was named "Old Vi." I don't
recall having any great affection for this animal, but mother says Vi
really took a shine to me and always came to me when I came near the
fence, and from time to time, daddy hoisted me on her back for a short
ride. Another picture of my dad with a dog turned out to be
"Gene," the best cow-getting dog in the world. I began life on a
farm in Buckley, and this property had several acres of timber on it. That
picture brought back a huge surge of memories of the days when daddy and I
and Gene would go get the cows. (For what it's worth, I used to be pretty
good at milking those cows, too.)
4. Personal Possessions.
small items that show your father's personality or interests.
Stitch or glue all items securely so they won't move when the picture is
handled. Examples: My box includes several small tools my dad always kept in his
pockets--a miniature knife, small screwdriver and spark plug tester; a
pencil with the name of his garage on it (Buckley Motors); an old
belt buckle with his initial; novelty tie clips; a pocket watch stopped at the time of his
death; and a clipping of his favorite ball team that he kept in his wallet
to remind him of the days when the White Sox were on a winning streak. It
read, "White Sox sprint past Orioles for 8th in row."
My daddy adored the game of baseball and would often
watch the Sox play on television while also listening to the Cubs on
radio. For years he kept a ratty old spiral notebook and a stubby pencil
in his shirt pocket, faithfully recording everyone's hits and runs. The
Sox came close to winning in 1982 but, like daddy, they didn't quite make
it. (See my poem, Life
is Like a Baseball Game.)
6. Signature Touch.
Woodburn or paint your father's signature on a piece of wood or other
appropriate object, or clip his handwritten signature from a letter or
cancelled check, as I did. Place it at center bottom.
Of course I never tire of looking at my father's memory box -- or any of
the several family memory boxes that have lined the hallway wall since I
first made them. They are among my most precious possessions and a
constant reminder of the wonderful life and family I've been blessed to
After completing your memory box, also think about writing a personal
memoir of your father, recalling wonderful times you had with him. Put a
copy of it in an envelope taped to the back of
the box. Then, long after your dad is gone -- and long after you're gone,
too -- people will not only have a visual record of his life in your
memory box, but will also have your written record of it as well.
oil painting of "Daddy's Garage"
is Like a Baseball Game
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