The Many Faces of Stress, and Why Women Can Handle it Better Than Men
How to Stop Worry at the Gate
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I Already Did That!
A New Year's Resolution You Might
Want to Consider
by Barbara Brabec
ONE YEAR, WHILE THINKING ABOUT the New Year's resolutions I ought to make, I got
to thinking about something I once heard opera singer Beverly Sills say in an
interview. In discussing her work with the interviewer, she made reference to
some musical work that she would not be doing in the future and pointed to the
necklace she was wearing.
It bore the engraved initials, "IADT." Ms. Sills said they stood for "I already
did that." She went on to explain that she sometimes needed a reminder that she
no longer had to say yes to every opportunity that presented itself. The message
she left with me that day was this:
Once you reach a certain point in your profession or achieve a certain level of
expertise, you no longer have to do all the things you used to do.
your dues, and you’re past a certain point of no return. Maybe you have
financial security and can afford to be more selective. Maybe your interests and
goals have changed, or maybe you feel you’re just getting too old to do certain
things you used to do.
Instead of making New Year's Resolutions that year, I applied Beverly Sills'
IADT philosophy to my own life and made a list of things I vowed never to do
again. My list included such things as turning down speaking engagements if it
meant I had to take a commuter plane to get to them, working evenings and
weekends, and letting the demands of work or the lure of extra income interfere
with vacation plans. A year later, I was pleased to see that I had been about 95
percent successful in eliminating those things from my life. I also noticed
that, in the process, I had also eliminated a ton of extra stress.
You don't have to wait until a new year rolls around
to make your own IADT list. Now is as good a time as any to do a little thinking
about the things that are causing you stress because you no longer want to
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